Children fail 10th grade, parents don't fail the role!

TPO - "When the child overcomes the emotional crisis, guide them to find new paths with new hope. Discuss with them about wishes 2, 3, opportunities to study at non-public schools, vocational education centers - continuing education" - Associate Professor, Dr. Tran Thanh Nam shared.

The Shock of 15: Silent but Deeply Hurt

In the currenteducational context of the capital, failing the first choice to enter grade 10 will be a shock and cause especially hurt to students who are in their extremely sensitive and vulnerable teenage years.

According to educators and psychologists, this is the time for parents to show understanding, support and narrow the generation gap with their children. So what should parents do?

Assoc.Prof.Dr. Tran Thanh Nam – Vice Principal of University of Education (Vietnam National University, Hanoi )

Associate Professor, Dr. Tran Thanh Nam - Vice Principal of the University of Education (Vietnam National University, Hanoi) shared, first of all, "feel" the psychological loss of a minor when missing a dream. Children will feel inferior, ashamed, and lose self-worth. They will compare themselves with friends, feel left behind, worry about the future, and feel that the world is "closed" to them. Many will withdraw from communication, which can lead to negative behavior if not supported promptly.

Second, according to this psychologist, listen and don't blame. Absolutely avoid saying things like: "I told you, if you study like that then...", "Parents have high expectations", "Friend A poorly studied and you passed but you..." Instead, say "Parents understand that you tried hard", "Let's find another suitable solution together."

“Remember that only when an individual feels understood and safe in the family will they dare to express their emotions and start over, overcoming the pain,” Mr. Nam shared.

According to Mr. Nam, give your child a space to reflect and express his or her emotions. Do not distract or get upset when your child shows sadness, crying, or disappointment. Show your child that it is okay because those are natural emotions. Parents should also not force their children to "be strong immediately". Instead, encourage your child to write a diary, draw pictures, and share with relatives or a psychologist.

This is a way to help your child rethink his or her feelings, thoughts, and perceptions and avoid the tendency to catastrophize. Then, parents should help their child reflect on the learning process, the efforts made to strengthen their beliefs and values, and not being successful at an event does not make them lose their values.

In addition, parents need to analyze the reasons for failing NV1 objectively, so that children do not blame themselves, encourage them to learn from experience, overcome failure and continue to try.

Finally, when the child has overcome the emotional crisis, guide him to find new paths with new hope. Discuss with him the second and third wishes, the opportunity to study at non-public schools, vocational education centers - continuing education, or vocational training - dual degree. Help him see that many other options can still lead to success and happiness if they are suitable for his abilities and passions.

"Parents' attitude when their children fail can determine their maturity"

Associate Professor, Dr. Tran Thanh Nam shared that parents should help their children set short-term and realistic goals: studying well in a new environment, developing soft skills, and exploring hobbies. Encourage and motivate children to participate in activities more actively and learn about new educational institutions. During this process, parents need to always pay attention to their children's mental health.

If you notice signs of a loss of control over your biological rhythm such as prolonged insomnia, loss of appetite, withdrawal, or negative words like “I'm tired of life,” “I'm a burden,” take your child to see a school psychologist. Remember, “Passing or failing does not determine a child's future.

Mr. Nam gives advice that parents' attitude when their children fail can determine their future maturity. "Becoming an active companion in this difficult time, parents not only help their children pass an exam, but also help them develop the ability to endure failure, overcome failure to be steadfast on the path of life.

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