The solid rear of the island soldiers
For over 18 years now, teacher Than Thi Khanh Van (born in 1980), Tien Luc Secondary School No. 2 (Lang Giang) has been used to shouldering all the household chores by herself, from raising children to "domestic and foreign affairs". Because her husband, Do Huy Muoi, is working in Truong Sa archipelago, usually only coming home on leave once every 2-3 years.
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Ms. Than Thi Khanh Van guides her child to do housework. |
When they first fell in love, Mr. Muoi was stationed in My Ha commune (now Tien Luc commune), near Ms. Van's house, so after getting married, the couple lived with her parents. When their first daughter was not yet two years old, he was assigned to work in Khanh Hoa province, then to Truong Sa archipelago. Hearing the news, she was worried and disappointed when thinking about the days of being away from her husband, but with his encouragement, she gradually regained her spirit.
She shared: “The time my husband and I met was only a matter of days, each time he came home on leave he was only on leave for 2 weeks. When I was pregnant and gave birth to my second child, I stayed up all night taking care of my sick child, without my husband by my side and every day witnessing the family reunions around me…, I couldn’t help but feel sad”. However, she never complained to her husband, nor did she allow herself to be weak. She told herself to try harder, take care of and raise the children carefully so that her husband could feel secure in carrying out his duties at the forefront.
With the help of their mother, both of their daughters are well-behaved, good at studying, and have won many awards in excellent student competitions. The eldest child is currently a student at the Academy of Finance, the youngest is in 9th grade. After teaching Math at school, she spends time updating the neweducation program, preparing lesson plans carefully, and actively participating in school and local movements. In particular, she has donated blood many times voluntarily with the desire to share, spread love, and contribute to helping patients.
Despite the distance, Van and her husband are still closely bonded. Every time he comes home on leave, he "takes on" to do all the housework as a thank you to his capable wife. For Muoi, family and the sea are sacred and inseparable things. Van thinks: Loyalty and responsibility are indispensable to maintain family happiness.
The wife of a martyr is a good businesswoman and raises good children.
People in Cau village, Minh Duc commune (Viet Yen town) still affectionately call Ms. Nguyen Thi Hanh, born in 1963, "The woman who carries both shoulders". Ms. Hanh's husband was a volunteer soldier who participated in the war to protect the southwestern border, fighting on the Cambodian battlefield. Returning from the fierce war, he suffered many injuries, was often sick and passed away when his children were still young. In 1985, he was recognized as a martyr.
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Ms. Nguyen Thi Hanh (second from left ) and women's association members clean the livestock barn. |
Since her husband passed away, Mrs. Hanh has shouldered all the family responsibilities, being both a father and a mother. To overcome difficulties and escape poverty, she worked hard and did everything, increasing production and raising livestock. “At that time, I regularly raised 20-25 pigs and hundreds of chickens. Every day, from early morning, I went to the fields to work, and in the afternoon I came back to take care of the pigs and chickens. Many nights I only slept for two or three hours,” Mrs. Hanh said. Thanks to her diligence in learning, attending training courses to transfer techniques, and visiting many places, she boldly developed a large-scale chicken raising model.
The barn is spacious, each batch, she raises about 20 thousand chickens. By strictly following the technical process to ensure the barn is clean and airy; vaccinating animals on time, the farming is highly effective. Every year, after deducting expenses, the family earns billions of dong in profit. The farm creates jobs for 15 regular and seasonal workers. Ms. Hanh has represented women's association members and farmers many times to attend conferences on typical good economic performance in the province and nationwide.
Not only enriching herself, Ms. Hanh also actively shares her experiences with the people in the area, especially the women members. At the farm, she prioritizes recruiting women in difficult circumstances, supports them with seeds, techniques and encourages everyone to overcome difficulties to do business. For more than 20 years as the Head of the Women's Association of the village, Ms. Hanh has organized many practical activities to attract members to participate, including the movement to collect scrap to sell to raise funds to help poor households. For many years, the association has been recognized as an excellent unit in emulation movements, and she has been commended and rewarded by all levels of the association.
Despite the hardship, she always cared about teaching her children to respect their elders, to love, to live kindly, and to study hard. Taking to heart her mother's teachings, her three daughters all tried hard to study and work hard, graduated from university, and are now working in the education sector. That "sweet fruit" made the hard-working mother happy, forgetting all the difficulties and hardships.
The good father in the countryside
Unlike the familiar image of a wife who manages the family, Mr. Dao Van Truong, born in 1981, in Tien La village, Duc Giang commune (Bac Giang city) takes care of the housework for his wife. For the past 12 years, his wife has been working abroad in Taiwan (China), only returning home once every few years. When they first got married, they both worked as farmers and construction workers, and their lives were full of hardship. In 2013, his wife registered to work abroad under the support program of the local women's association. At first, he objected because he felt sorry for his wife's hardship in a foreign land, but after listening to his wife's analysis, he agreed to stay "in the rear" so that his wife could feel secure in finding opportunities to change her life.
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Dao Van Truong's family took photos to celebrate their wedding anniversary. |
His wife went to work far away when their youngest child was only 2 years old. He did everything very skillfully and thoughtfully, such as making milk, feeding porridge, taking care of sick children, etc., while also managing the housework, taking the children to and from school, and always closely following their growth. Every week and every month, during breaks between work, his wife would call her husband and children to talk about work, and at the same time share her hardships with him back home. "To make a living, my wife has to work far away, so I have to do my job even better to make her feel secure," Mr. Truong confided. Understanding that the money his wife sent back home was not easy, he spent it wisely and also worked as a construction worker to earn more income. Later, when he had capital, he invested in a rental service for backdrops and dishes for weddings and events, helping the family's economy to become increasingly prosperous.
Mr. Truong thinks that earning money to take care of life is important, but that does not mean neglecting to raise children. His two sons grew up at a time when the Internet was developing; many "game and chat" shops appeared throughout the countryside, and many students indulged in unhealthy online games. "Raising children is the most difficult when they are young, I have to promptly grasp and correct them so that they do not go astray, stay away from social evils, and are not affected by the negative side of social networks," said Mr. Truong. Currently, the couple's eldest child graduated from vocational college and has a stable job in Japan; the second child is in grade 11 at Yen Dung High School No. 3, always well-behaved, and has good academic performance every year. Every time he comes home to visit, his wife sees that her husband takes good care of the children and manages the house neatly, so she is assured to continue working far away.
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