The role of family in children's education

With the view that "Education is not about imposing, but about accompanying", since the children were young, teacher Tran Manh Cuong and his wife, Tam Hong town (Yen Lac) did not impose or pressure their children with expectations but created conditions for them to develop according to their own abilities, interests and values.

Ms. Phan Thu Hang accompanied her daughter Nguyen Thi Tuyet Nhung at the ceremony to receive the Australian Government scholarship.

Mr. Cuong actively chats with his children like friends; creates a Zalo group with parents and 2 children to confide, share and exchange everything about studying, life and create connections. Mr. Cuong helps his children form a sense of self-study, build a study plan with appropriate goals; at the same time, guides them on how to study effectively.

In particular, the couple always educates their children to live a kind and loving life. With that responsible companionship, Mr. Cuong's children have developed comprehensively; currently, the eldest daughter has graduated from university and is working in Hanoi ; the son is an excellent 12th grade student at Yen Lac High School.

The family of Ms. Phan Thu Hang in Vu Di commune (Vinh Tuong) is a strong inspiration for the will to live and unconditional love. Ms. Hang and her husband are self-employed, do not have much money and life is even more difficult when her 3 children all have congenital motor disabilities, with cramped limbs and difficulty moving. Suppressing the pain, the couple persevered to take their children to school and carry them to class.

Not only supporting their children's difficult steps, they also always encourage and motivate them to overcome their inferiority complex, study hard, live with dreams and be full of love. Just like that, Ms. Hang's 3 children grew up not with healthy legs but with the boundless love, education and sacrifice of their parents.

Ms. Hang's eldest daughter, Nguyen Thi Tuyet Nhung, is studying for a master's degree in Disability Practice and Leadership under an Australian Government scholarship; her second daughter, Nguyen Phan Lan Anh, graduated from Ho Chi Minh City University of Education, majoring in Psychology; her youngest son is an excellent student at Vu Di Primary and Secondary School.

Ms. Hang confided: “Raising children has never been easy, especially when we are just farmers and my children have congenital diseases. But I always believe that, with love, companionship and faith, my children will grow up to be good people, useful to society. What I desire is for my children to live healthy, be responsible for themselves and value love and loyalty."

The story of Mr. Cuong and Ms. Hang's family shows that the starting point does not determine the success of a child, but the attitude, awareness and behavior of parents in the process of raising and educating their children are the fundamental factors. The family is where children are born, grow up, learn to love, recognize right from wrong and form their initial personality.

Parents' behavior, words, and conduct are the first lessons that have a lasting impact on children's souls and personalities. Schools teach children knowledge and skills, but families are where morality, lifestyle, and humanity are sown. Education is not a process of "filling" knowledge but a process of "lighting" and parents are the first to light it, with love, companionship, responsibility, and sacrifice.

In traditional Vietnamese society, the family has always played a central role in educating children. Not only teaching letters, the family also trains morality, teaches etiquette, kindness and filial piety. Many families have flexibly combined strictness and gentleness, creating a healthy environment for children to develop harmoniously. However, in modern life, many parents, in order to make a living, have unintentionally neglected their educational role.

Some parents think that providing enough material things is fulfilling their parental responsibilities, forgetting that children need to be cared for, listened to, understood and guided by their families. Many worrying problems such as a loose lifestyle, indifference, academic pressure, depression, etc. all stem from the absence of parental companionship and guidance.

With love and education from her parents, Nguyen Thi Tuyet Nhung (first, right) is always confident in life.

Some people, out of love for their children, impose their own expectations on them, causing them to feel pressured and disoriented. Some people indulge and lack discipline, causing children to lack independence and life skills. Love without alertness and responsibility can easily turn into pressure or laxity, causing harm to children's development.

In that context, building an effective family education environment requires selective inheritance of tradition combined with modern methods. Educating children requires not only a warm, loving heart but also understanding and perseverance.

Sometimes, a hug, a pat on the shoulder, a word of encouragement or a moment when parents spend time with their children, listening to them share… is enough to nurture their spirit and personality. Teaching children to be polite, apologize, help others, control their emotions… are valuable lessons that originate from the simple things that parents sow in their children every day.

Family is not only a place to nurture the physical but also a place to nurture the soul, morality and intelligence. Educating children is a journey with no shortcuts. With love, sacrifice and responsibility, family is the first guide, the companion in the journey of maturity of every young person. A good family will create good people and those good people are the solid foundation for a civilized, humane and progressive society.

Article and photos: Minh Huong

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