Parents trying every way to make their children happy are "harming their children"?

(Dan Tri) - Many parents often have the reflex to quickly find ways to soothe their children's negative emotions, to help them cheer up when they show signs of sadness, disappointment or anger.

But that is a serious mistake. According to American psychologist Becky Kennedy, always looking for quick ways to make children happy when they go through difficult situations will weaken their independence, self-control and psychological stability.

In the long run, children can become less emotionally and mentally resilient. When parents see their children going through difficult situations, they should just focus on listening, supporting and offering advice if necessary. Parents should not always be quick to play the “hero” to help their children.

Although parents always want their children to be happy, children learn a lot from negative emotions (Illustration: CNBC).

“Being a parent doesn’t mean you have to make your child happy all the time. You don’t have to smooth out every obstacle that comes your way. It’s in difficult situations that you need to learn to step back and let your child show you their strength and ability,” says expert Becky Kennedy.

In fact, children learn a lot from mistakes, disappointments and things that don’t go as planned. If parents only focus on keeping their children happy and comfortable, instead of helping them deal with a variety of emotions, they are inadvertently depriving their children of the opportunity to grow up. Children need to learn to control their own emotional states in order to behave appropriately.

For example, in learning, there will be times when children will have to face difficulties, fatigue, even feel disappointed, helpless, and feel inferior. But if they can overcome these negative emotions and continue to try, they will practice strength in the learning experience.

If parents constantly intervene and support their children, they will lose the opportunity to hone their skills to overcome challenges. Children also do not have the opportunity to see how strong and resilient they are when facing difficult and difficult problems in learning.

So from now on, when you see your child struggling with difficult exercises or difficult problems, instead of quickly sitting down to help them, parents should encourage them and let them find their own solutions.

Source: https://dantri.com.vn/giao-duc/phu-huynh-tim-moi-cach-khien-con-vui-la-dang-hai-con-20250824223123030.htm