Ms. Hong Nga is from Tien Giang, got married and lives in Can Tho City. The marriage became suffocating since she quit her job to stay home to take care of the children. Her husband often showed disrespect when she was no longer directly earning money. Ms. Nga said: “I have been married for 5 years. For the first 3 years, my husband and I lived very happily. Before, I was a tailor, with a stable income. My husband's family had a company specializing in purchasing fruits, so after giving birth to our second child, my husband advised me to quit my job and focus on taking care of the family. In the past 2 years, my husband's business has not been going well, causing his temperament to change, he often gets angry, and when he is drunk, he even curses his wife and children."
Ms. Ngoc Thanh is from Hau Giang , formerly a contract English teacher; her husband is a construction contractor. After getting married, she followed her husband to Can Tho City to live. At that time, Ms. Thanh's husband's business was favorable and growing, so he advised her to quit her job and stay home to take care of the family. For more than 8 years, Ms. Thanh has been a responsible housewife, taking care of and raising 3 children so that her husband could focus on his business. However, the storm began when Ms. Thanh's husband unfortunately became seriously ill and passed away. Family life was turned upside down. The children were of school age, while Ms. Thanh had no job. The family's property, the house, was also forced to be mortgaged. "I don't know what to do to earn money to raise my children, because my knowledge has not been used for a long time and is gradually fading and becoming outdated. I don't have the confidence to find a job," Ms. Thanh shared.
Ms. Phuong is from Can Tho and her husband, Mr. Tam, is from Bac Lieu. They both studied at the same prestigious university in Ho Chi Minh City. They admired each other for their academic achievements and their enthusiasm in group activities. After getting married, they both "stayed" in the city to start a career. Mr. Tam opened his own company, Ms. Phuong was a lecturer at a university at that time. Then, in order for her husband to focus on developing his career, Ms. Phuong retired to the "rear" to take care of their two young children. Over time, the business developed, Mr. Tam opened another branch. From then on, he began an affair with a female employee at the provincial branch. Although she knew the details of the situation, Ms. Phuong, because of her two children and her financial dependence on her husband, could only suffer silently and did not dare to confront or break up. Just like that, she lived like a shadow next to her husband in a "same bed, different dreams" marriage.
Mr. Hai in Can Tho City and his wife, Ms. L, have been together for 8 years and have 2 children, both boys and girls. Mr. Hai works for a food company. Previously, Ms. L also worked, but when she got married, she quit her job and stayed home to focus on taking care of her husband and children. On the surface, everyone thinks that they are happy and peaceful, but only those involved know. Because she stayed at home for too long, Ms. L became jealous, especially with people of the opposite sex who came into contact with her husband. Knowing his wife's jealousy, Mr. Hai behaved properly. He thought that giving in would keep their happiness, but Ms. L's "jealousy" became more and more severe. Recently, Ms. L suddenly barged into the shop and made a fuss while Mr. Hai was preparing to sign a contract with a partner, causing him to lose face and the contract. Unable to bear his wife's jealousy, Mr. Hai filed for divorce.
According to psychologists, as long as women are dependent, there is inequality, and it is difficult to foster a happy marriage. Therefore, no matter the circumstances, women should have a stable job. It does not need to be a great career, as long as the job is something that they love, suitable for them to confidently integrate into society, modern life, and no longer think of living a life of contentment, dependence, and entrusting their happiness to their partner.
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