Parents two words love
According to folklore researcher Nhat Thanh, the titles of father and mother, father and mother, have existed since ancient times. The "Hong Bang" legend in the book Linh Nam Chich Quai recorded that: Whenever people were in need, they would call out to King Lac Long: "Bo, wherever you go, will come to save us." Below that sentence, the author noted: "The Southern people call their fathers "bo" from that time on." The word "bo" (same sound as the word "father") is still used today, such as "bo lao" is an old person equal to an old father.
The book Kham Dinh Viet Su Thong Giam Cuong Muc recorded: In Tan Vi year (791), Phung Huong, a native of Duong Lam (Phuc Tho district, Son Tay province today), rose up against the Tang Dynasty's protectorate government. After his death, the soldiers appointed his son as their successor. Out of admiration for him, they built a temple to worship him and honored him as Bo Cai Dai Vuong, considering him as a person with deep gratitude and respect like a parent.
“The word father means father and the word daughter means mother have gone through dozens of centuries, and are still full of vitality in Vietnamese language and literature,” researcher Nhat Thanh affirmed. Our proverbs say: “The wild child bears the burden” or “In September, red tangerines grow/In March, the young ones grow, the children return” (the children mean mother and child).
In addition to calling parents, father and mother, many localities also call parents "teachers" in the Red River Delta, "father and mother" like the people of the South, and "ba me" like the people of Phu Yen . In the book "Dat le que thoi", researcher Nhat Thanh said that parents were also called "cuu mo". A fashionable trend from the feudal period to the Westernization movement that appeared in Vietnam in the early 20th century: "In the past, people working in the mandarins' houses and the people used to call the sons and daughters-in-law of this class "cuu mo aunt", then the children of those rich boys and girls followed suit and called their parents "cuu mo aunt" and in those families people were proud and liked it like that. Gradually, this custom spread, starting from the civil servants (during the French colonial period, many civil servants had ranks no less than high-ranking mandarins) and even to the merchants in the cities.
The two words "uncle and aunt" were rising like a kite, wanting to overwhelm and replace the two words "parents", but suddenly disappeared, secretly and fearfully, quickly slipping into silence at the same time as the bureaucratic regime ended in August 1945. From then on, the two words "uncle and aunt" were returned to their pure old meaning: "uncle" is mother's younger brother and "aunt" is uncle's wife", Nhat Thanh expressed his opinion.
Nhat Thanh also emphasized that although each locality has a different way of expressing the affectionate call of parents, it is still dear in the Vietnamese family tradition. Those who leave their parents to go to the city to study and make a living still look forward to the day they return to their parents to be comforted. For children, parents always consider them foolish even though their hair is gray.
“Throughout the ups and downs, the words father and mother are still official, and proverbs, literature, and poetry rarely have room for other words. “A child is better than his father, the family is blessed”; “A father eats salty food, the child is thirsty”; “A mother raises her child with the sky and the sea/A child raises her child, counting every day”/“A child, a mother’s child, but a daughter-in-law, a daughter-in-law like that” (Le Quy Don - Phu Mother advises her child when going to her husband’s house)”, Nhat Thanh concluded.
The proverb "August is the death anniversary of the Father, March is the death anniversary of the Mother" has been passed down to this day and still holds its value. It reminds each of us of the annual death anniversary of King Bat Hai and King Hung Dao in August and Princess Lieu Hanh in the third lunar month. The beauty of cultural beliefs - where both mother and father, both goddesses and gods are sincerely respected by the people.
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Scene from the movie Bicycle Thieves. (Source: ST) |
"Loving father but great ambition not achieved"
“In the past, father sat drinking wine, mother sat knitting/Outside, in winter, the banyan tree leaves fell…/In the past, beside father's bed, mother sat far away/Looking at father, feeling sorry for him, his great ambition failed…” (Tran Tien - My Mother)
These lyrics are very familiar to me. I think of my father, when he planned to go to Eastern Europe. He went to Hanoi to wait for a long time, but then the bloc collapsed and my father became unemployed and returned home to farm. Life was so hard at that time, my mother had to work as a street vendor in addition to teaching, my father went from being a cadre to farming, so bewildered. The family's difficult life at that time made me realize the lyrics "love your father, great ambition not achieved".
A song written by musician Tran Tien about mother, but the image of the father is silent. The image of him sitting and drinking wine of a defeated man, but beside him is still a woman knitting a sweater, bringing him warmth, although the great ambition of a man is broken, he still wants to be the support for the family, but the times make people go astray. As Tan Da said "High talent, low fate, depressed spirit/ Wandering around, addicted to playing, forgetting the homeland". This is a song in which the image of a defeated father is sung with the deep affection of a family clinging together, relying on each other in difficult times.
A great world cinema work was released in 1946 - Bicycle Thieves, directed by Vittorio De Sica, still moves viewers until now even though it has become a classic. It is the story of Ricci - an unemployed man in Rome, after a long time finally finds a job as a poster boy with the condition that he must have a bicycle to go to work.
This forced his wife to sell many things in the house to be able to buy a car. However, while he was putting up posters on the street, someone stole his tools to make a living. He and his son Bruno had to run around in a huge city with hundreds of thousands of hungry people like them looking for a car.
And when he finally caught the thief, he was protected by a crowd so he couldn't find the bike. In a desperate and insane moment, he stole another bike but failed... The journey to find and steal the Ricci family's bike revealed a part of the history and society of Italy at that time. The bike in the movie conquered the world. This is always considered a typical film for the realist film trend and received the Oscar for "Best Foreign Film" in 1949. It was voted the best work of all time.
The film leaves a deep, lingering sadness about their miserable fate, when they feel like they are at the end of their rope, abandoned and unable to find their future. However, deep in their hearts, the father and son are still full of love and optimism for each other.
The work I recently watched is That Mountain, That Man, That Dog by director Jianqi Huo, China. An inspiring film about father and son love. A resilient, loving, inspiring story of a father and son who deliver letters to people in the mountains of Hunan, China in the 80s of the 20th century.
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Scene from the movie Bicycle Thieves. (Source: ST). |
A lonely old man sat at the main door of his house on the mountainside. He waited for the postman to bring a letter from his grandson who had left home a long time ago and for some unknown reason had not returned. He cried until he was blind because he missed his grandson. In fact, there was no letter from his grandson to him. The postman understood his longing and wrote a letter without words, and read it to the old man. Every time he heard the letter read, the old man cried and put the letter on his heart. And when the postman and his son left, he still sat there, hoping that one day they would return... That was a scene that haunted me.
The father was about to retire and the son followed in his father's footsteps. His first postal delivery was accompanied by his father, and it was also his last postal delivery. A dog named Lao Nhi was his companion. Three days of delivering mail through villages, they crossed fields, forests, valleys, steep slopes... the father taught him how to work, meet, greet, and deliver mail. The story seemed monotonous, but following in his father's footsteps, his youth learned many things.
That is the principle of "the way to deliver the letter must be the way to deliver the letter", do not take the bus but walk to be accurate. Each letter is the eagerness and response of the recipient, so you must be very careful, do not lose or forget. In the movie, there is a scene where the letter is blown away by the wind, the father panics. He understands that if the letter is lost, the recipient will lose contact, lose connection, lose the expectation of information from each other...
The son learned from his father, and he saw his own youth when he saw his son playing with the girl in the mountains. He married the girl in the mountains after one meeting. He said he loved his wife who had to wait for him all her life, because of work he kept going away... He also saw his son grow up and take on the job he had devoted his whole life to.
He did this job patiently, without asking for a promotion, he wanted his son to continue his work, he told his son to find joy in his work: "This job is also hard, but when you travel a lot, meet people, the work seems normal, life seems very easy".
These are outstanding literary works about fathers. Fathers who are not successful, rich or famous. They are people who are out of date, poor, unemployed or have a normal job, but their love and great sacrifice for their family are always great and sufficient. So that the call “Dad” in the family always resounds no matter what the circumstances.
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