Harmony of happiness

Our ancestors have a saying “a bowl in the waves still makes a sound” to describe the daily, inevitable conflicts in married life. Arguing is sometimes also a spice of marriage, helping both parties understand each other, learn to compromise and build a stronger relationship, as long as they know how to resolve conflicts positively.

Mr. Tri Tin always spends a lot of time caring for his wife and children to maintain family happiness.

"My husband and I have a very bad relationship. We argue every time we open our mouths" - Ms. Kieu Trinh in Ninh Kieu ward, Can Tho city, told about a period of crisis in her marriage.

Trinh and her husband have been married for more than 5 years and have a daughter together. During all those years of living together, the couple had many times of "not getting along well". Trinh said: "When we first got married, my husband and I were very happy. Every day, we each went to work in a different place; in the afternoon, after work, we went to the market together, cooked and had dinner in a warm atmosphere. The most difficult period in our marriage was after I gave birth and put my career on hold to take care of the baby. My husband and I moved from the countryside to the city to start a business, living far away from our family, so we had no relatives to help us. During this time, I was under a lot of stress. In addition, my child was naughty and cried a lot, which made me even more stressed and irritable."

Lacking self-confidence, Ms. Trinh developed jealousy. Because of that, she and her husband argued constantly. Many times, unable to bear her wife's grumpiness, her husband gathered friends to drink outside. Or, her parents advised the couple to think of each other... Having been taught by her mother the secret of "rice boiled over low heat for a lifetime without burning", Ms. Trinh gradually adjusted her temperament, controlled her emotions, and anger.

As for Trinh’s husband, he also spends a lot of time taking care of his wife and children. This new school year, Trinh’s daughter is entering kindergarten, and her husband encourages her to go back to work. He tries to arrange time to help his wife with housework and taking care of the children to reduce her mental pressure.

Many happy couples believe that love, care, and mutual respect are important factors in reducing conflicts in marriage. Mr. Tri Tin in Ninh Kieu Ward shared: “My wife and I sometimes quarrel and raise our voices. Actually, the topic of our argument is not a big deal, but due to work pressure and a busy life, our tired mood makes us more irritable. After the “anger that makes us lose our mind”, both of us try to reconcile and strengthen the stability of the family.”

Mr. Tin concluded that in addition to being the economic pillar of the family, the husband needs to pay attention to his wife's feelings, take care of and educate the children, maintain family happiness through showing love, care and listening, as well as being a shining example of morality and lifestyle for the members.

Ms. Thuy and Mr. Tuan in Phong Dien commune, Can Tho city have been married for more than 47 years and have two successful sons. After a long journey of living together, they both "know by heart" each other's personalities but still cannot avoid times of disagreement and back and forth.

Ms. Thuy said: “My husband is very hot-tempered. Every time he is tired from work, he gets angry for no reason and yells at his wife and children. He also likes to drink and have a drink with his friends. I worry about his health but I can't stop him. In return, my husband loves his wife and spoils his children.” Because she understands her husband's temperament, every time they are angry, Ms. Thuy gives in and avoids arguing. When her husband calms down, she gently advises him to gradually give up his bad habits.

Ms. Thuy shared: “After going through hardships, I cherish happiness more and preserve the love between husband and wife more deeply. In my opinion, to have a happy family, it is important that the people involved must be tolerant, know how to care, see each other's strengths and weaknesses to reconcile.”

According to psychologists, in married life, conflicts are inevitable, stemming from individual differences in psychology, thoughts, emotions and perspectives on life, as well as being affected by external pressures such as finances, work... And each couple has their own way to cultivate happiness. However, the most common point to build a warm family is that husband and wife need to respect, love and care for each other. When conflicts arise, both need to communicate frankly and understand each other to resolve the matter in a harmonious and skillful way.

Article and photos: KIEN QUOC

Source: https://baocantho.com.vn/dung-hoa-hanh-phuc-a190817.html