6 types of love that parents don't use that make their children lazy

Alex Zhou - a psychological consultant, said that he has received many complaints and worries from customers who are parents such as: " My child is very lazy. He stays at home all day, watches TV, plays games, and sleeps all day. He doesn't do anything his parents tell him to do" or: "My child is extremely lazy to study. He is always at the bottom of the class, doesn't bother to take extra classes, doesn't study or do homework!"....

However, the reason why children are lazy often comes from the parents'educational methods. When seeing that their children are not proactive in doing something, parents - as the first teachers, their words and actions will directly affect their children's growth and development.

Below are 6 bad habits of parents that silently make their children more dependent and lazy every day.

1. Regularly do things for and help your child

Children who are just starting to learn something often cannot complete it right away and it takes more time. Many parents at this time want to help their children do it quickly and complete it early.

However, this prevents children from exploring the world around them, limits the development of life skills and creates a habit of laziness and dependence on others.

6 kiểu yêu thương không phải lối của cha mẹ khiến con trở thành đứa trẻ lười nhác- Ảnh 1. — Frequently doing things for and helping your child creates a habit of laziness and dependence on others. Illustration photo

2. Find every way to make your child work hard

Many parents express frustration when their children are lazy or unmotivated. Or when their children hate learning the piano but their parents insist that they are good at it and try to make them practice hard. If you treat your children like a problem that needs to be solved, they will refuse to cooperate and continue to be lazy.

So let your child know that you care about his unusual behavior. First, connect with the issues that he cares about, such as his personal interests, favorite books, favorite subjects. Then, discuss the issues that he dislikes or often procrastinates.

This helps children realize that their parents always genuinely care about them, respect their opinions and interests. From there, they will open up more, sharing personal problems.

3. Always negotiate with your child

Whatever you do, you need to be consistent in everything if you want your child to be diligent and keep learning. If you want your child to do some housework when he wakes up in the morning or when he comes home from school, you need to ask him to do it every day. If you let your child negotiate and postpone it until the next day, it will lead to laziness in the child.

6 kiểu yêu thương không phải lối của cha mẹ khiến con trở thành đứa trẻ lười nhác- Ảnh 2. — If you let your child negotiate and postpone what needs to be done until the next day, it will lead to laziness in the child. Illustration photo

4. Decision on behalf of children

I don't need to find a purpose in life and strive for it. Because my parents have already decided everything. From which school to go to, what to eat, how to behave with my sisters, what to wear, what job I should do to be successful and have status.

If parents are so overprotective of their children, why do they need to think about their life goals?! They expect and rely on their parents to think for them. Day by day, children gradually become cocoons in cocoons. And the job of a cocoon is to sleep!

5. Do not guide your child to build a work plan

My parents never asked me guiding questions like: What do you want to be when you grow up? And my parents didn't guide me what to do first, what to do next, sometimes I don't know so I have to start doing it, I feel shy.